“You may find a secret bank account that your partner was keeping to buy you a birthday present they didn’t want you to know about,” said April Masini, a relationship expert and author. “When you find a financial secret, calmly ask (your partner about it). Waiting and gabbing with friends and family turns the secret into gossip and creates a festering wound — and you’ll probably pounce on your partner and demand to know why they’re treating you this way.” “If your partner is a chronic liar, don’t expect financial honesty. Financial secrets don’t happen in a vacuum. They happen because of personalities and relationship dynamics. It’s not usually about the money. It’s about feelings.”